How open are you about your rape fantasy kink?

[Claire]

Jokes aside, my wife knows I'm writing erotic stories online, but she balked a bit when I hinted at the non-consensual nature of most of my writings, and I never brought this up after. She's "grey" asexual and doesn't really have sexual fantasies to speak of, so I can hardly expect her to understand the notion of rape fantasy. It would be quite a challenge for me to explain her that I've been having those kinds of fantasies since puberty.

Oh wow. I assume that writing your stories takes up quite a bit of your time, just given the sheer length of your stories and how frequently you publish new chapters. I can imagine that from the perspective of someone who is asexual, this must seem like a lot of time to spend on writing erotic literature, consensual or not.

[HistBuff]

Oh wow. I assume that writing your stories takes up quite a bit of your time, just given the sheer length of your stories and how frequently you publish new chapters. I can imagine that from the perspective of someone who is asexual, this must seem like a lot of time to spend on writing erotic literature, consensual or not.

Well, she understands that running my fantasies during sex is a real help for me, and she loves me enough to understand that sex is a need for me. In the long run, I prefer an understanding, asexual wife to a hetero, selfish drama-queen wife. We also have spells of time where I don't ask sex from her, because I try to be understanding too -- this happens to be those times when I binge-write; Lord knows why!

As an aside, I really like your "save draft" feature. It allows me to just log in and work on a chapter for 15-20 minutes, and then go back to my other things.

[Claire]

Well, she understands that running my fantasies during sex is a real help for me, and she loves me enough to understand that sex is a need for me. In the long run, I prefer an understanding, asexual wife to a hetero, selfish drama-queen wife. We also have spells of time where I don't ask sex from her, because I try to be understanding too -- this happens to be those times when I binge-write; Lord knows why!

That sounds sweet. An asexual woman and a man writing erotic rape fantasy. That sounds like the beginning of a great romance story. <3

As an aside, I really like your "save draft" feature. It allows me to just log in and work on a chapter for 15-20 minutes, and then go back to my other things.

Glad you like it. Sadly, I can not take credit for that. That is just a standard feature of phpBB forums. RavishU was using really outdated forum software and could have given authors and readers a few nice features with very little effort if somebody had actually taken the time to maintain the place. :/

[Shocker]

I keep this side of my life entirely separate and secret. On her I’m talking freely, but take great care of protecting my identity, but nobody in my daily life knows about this kink.

[Claire]

I keep this side of my life entirely separate and secret. On her I’m talking freely, but take great care of protecting my identity, but nobody in my daily life knows about this kink.

Feel free to ignore the question if it's too personal, but have you ever tried telling somebody about it but got a bad response? I didn't have the guts yet to try. Also

On her I’m talking freely

Nice typo.

[HistBuff]

I keep this side of my life entirely separate and secret. On her I’m talking freely, but take great care of protecting my identity, but nobody in my daily life knows about this kink.

It is a very sensible way to go about it. As of late I have seen some improvement in my life, in many aspects, since I began accepting the idea that I may learn from others and benefit from it, and in turn the people around me will benefit too.

[BlackMilkAngel]

Uhm! My friends have an idea yes, js very close ones. Ive never told any partner. Im terribly scared of being thought of as a crazy b

[Claire]

@BlackMilkAngel We're all a little crazy here, so you are in good company. So what do the friends think you told about your kink? Got any uneypected reactions?

[BlackMilkAngel]

Haha yup the friend i told surprisingly shared the same kink so it became a lottle thing between the 2 of us

[joey]

This kind of kink is not something I share with anyone other than some folks I've corresponded with on non-con boards. That said after a few decades of marriage I'm sure my wife intuits that I have somewhat of an interest in films that contain non-con material. She, on the other hand, is repulsed by such content and will leave the room during a scene like the home invasion in "A Clockwork Orange". Needless to say telling her about a fantasy that imagines her being raped is a non starter. Back in the day before we were married I rented the flick "Deliverance" to watch on a quiet Saturday night with her just to push her buttons (yes, I know, how nasty of me). She was shocked/revolted at the Ned Beatty attack by the hillbillies. So I do my best to keep all of this stuff pretty buttoned up.