How open are you about your rape fantasy kink?

[Groping_Husband]

With my Exwife, it was easy to discuss because it sort of evolved with her. She developed a slew of mental illness bout 3 years into marriage. She was extremely vanilla when we met. As she startes having more issues she wanted rougher sex. Rougher, harder, etc... We had a safeword just in case. She was a drama major and loved roleplay. Authentic uniforms, wigs, jewelry, i mean she was incredible at roleplay.
One night she told me she wasnt having a safeword anymore because it wasnt realistic enough if she could say a word and stop me. She told me no matter what she says or does, dont srop until i cum. She said if i stopped i would have to screw my hand because we would be done for the night.
Well i freaked out at one point because i was brainwashes to believe "no means no!" And, true to her word i was left with my hand and blue balls when i stopped.
I realized then what she meant. From then on she told told me, i could initiate sex or ask if she wanted sex as normal men do, and if she was horny and in the mood she would have sex like normal couples do. However she said, if i initiated or asked her for sex and she said no, i was to simply force her. No safewords!
Thats how my kink began. Her mental issues kept spiralling out of control until our marriage imploded.
- I met my current wife shortly after my divorce. One night my wife asked me to tell her the things other women did for me sexually that i really loved because she would do them and do them better, that she would be the only woman i needed.
I told her the milder stuff first. I was terrified to tell her about my rape fetish. Afraid she would think im some kind of secret serial rapist. Over several months i divulged more and more of my kinks and fetishes.
One night during sex i was on top of her, she was face down. I whispered in her ear, "resist! Dont let me fuck me, make me force you!" She did! It was INCREDIBLE! She wasnt great at resisting me but it had been so long.
Afterward she brought it up. We started discussing the resisting. How much force i liked? How rough? She just said, "so you like rape? You want to rape me?" Long awkward silence. I explained my exwife and how the fetish began.
She said she will try her best to resist for me if i ask but cannot really visualize how because she doesnt believe a husband can rape his wife. My mouth dropped! "WHAT?" In 2012 a woman just told me husbands cant rape their wives? She then said, "if she doesnt want his dick in her then she shouldnt have married him!"
Yes, she actually said that! So she knows i like rapeplay. She tries to resist but shes not convincing LOL. But she tries to cater to me. None of my friends or family know except her.