How open are you about your rape fantasy kink?

[Claire]

@joey I'm sorry to hear that you need to hide your kink from your wife. I imagine that can be rough, doing that for decades. :/

[joey]

@Claire Appreciate the sentiment, but I actually like it like this. Sound strange?? Maybe, but in a way knowing how she feels makes a lot of the crazy fantasies I dream up about us more stimulating. Editing to say I thought " " around @ followed by your user name would highlight but see I was mistaken. Will have to find out how to do it correctly.

[Vela Nanashi]

Type @ then a few letters of the name, a menu will show up, select the person in there and it converts into a mention tag @joey

[joey]

@Vela Nanashi Many thanks for the help, and also for the previous info on pixel size with the avatar (which I finally managed to get up). I am terrible at adapting to a new environment.

[Vela Nanashi]

oh you are doing fine feel free to ask me if there is anything else you need help with, asking here and pinging is a good way to get me or Claire or someone else that can help you

[Claire]

@joey The mention worked, I got the notification.

[Lucius]

Not open. Not open at all. This kink is online only for me.

[Hazard]

I've shared this with 2 or 3 past girlfriends. They shared the kink in their own ways to a similar degree. In the best case, with one girl, we engaged in soft roleplay, which was choosing a scenario, pretending to be characters, then having mostly vanilla sex but reinforcing some sort of coercion, blackmail or mild force scenario with bondage and language. Really mild stuff. With that specific girl, she wanted to hear these stories I had unwittingly mentioned. I resisted sharing them, as I felt they exposed too much of my kink and interests, but in the end I agreed to read one to her and we'd do it while having sex. So instead of playing out our mild rape roleplay, we had slow missionary sex while I read the least exposing story I'd written. I remember her really enjoying that.

All that being said, as a single male now, I don't know how I could possibly be open about it with anyone in normy world. I wouldn't confide or share it with anyone I wasn't in a romantic relationship. While an empathic intelligent person could hear this about you and show understanding and come to logical conclusions (i.e. comprehend the difference between kinks and fantasies and real life), you have to remember 90% of sheeple are borderline retarded and quick to judge. I'm not putting ammunition in their retard cannons, especially when I have responsibilities and things to lose.

And tbh, I'm cool with that. Imagine if in the workplace the women were to discover 50% of their male colleagues were having rape fantasies about them for example. Damn, some things are better left unknown. And also, do I want to know the guy sitting opposite me is thinking that way about a female work colleague I like? No. Ignorance is bliss.

The predatory nature of men in general is pretty ugly, and I think we all know it deep down, but one of the many self deluded dances we do is to just not think about that and ignore it. We're shocked when we hear about rape in war zones, and tell ourselves it could never happen here. But really we're surrounded by potential predators. So I really don't wanna put my hand up and say "You know that thing we all ignore? That grown men look at 16 year old school girls and think sexual thoughts? You know that thing. We all pretend it's not real and just ignore it? Yeah that thing. WELL LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT WHAT I'M INTO!"

[RandolphCockburn]

No one I know... Just some pervs online...

[TheBardbarian]

My wife knows it exists and participates in it a little. She does not know the full scope or the depths of it. Nor does she know that I have written stories of an erotic nature at all let alone some that I had posted on The U and other places.